Ever felt lost, flat or completely deflated in your career or business? Or, sometimes even in your life?
“Did you hear You-Know-Who got promoted… again! I should really be at that level by my age!”
“Wow you’re publishing your third book! in two years? amazing!”
“You’ve got how many instagram followers? really?”
Chances are, you have fallen victim to what I call, the Comparison Conundrum.
You know the one.
THE COMPARISON CONUNDRUM:
Where we think, wonder & often envy how someone else seems to have their shit totally sorted!
We watch from the outside (on our devices or from the other side of the ‘mask’) wondering how they can possibly have a thriving career/business, travel the world, have an all-adoring partner, fabulous sex life, talented kids, is a picture of perfect health ALL still whilst maintaining a rocking social life & saving the elephants in Africa & refugees in Sudan!
I am depressed just thinking about it.
The Comparison Conundrum, it’s dangerous! It can make any of us feel as though we don’t “do” enough, “have” enough or are simply “not good” enough!
This is complete bollocks, of course.
Here’s the bigger issue, the more we waste our valuable time looking, envying & wishing we had what everyone else has (or at least allegedly has) … the less time we spend establishing what we want & then doing the hard yards to get it!
So here’s the deal, if you ever start to head down the Comparison Conundrum, take 5 mins for yourself (yes that means you have to quit Facebook stalking for that moment), grab a cuppa & jot down these three simple things:
What do you want? Personally & Professionally?
Why do you want it? If you got it, what would it give you?
What do you need to DO to make it happen?
Before you start, take a moment to jot down, what you already have (and I don’t mean material crap)!
I mean, what resources (internally & externally) do you have at your disposal to help you get what you want?
- Make a list of your own amazing qualities, attitudes, past experiences, skills & knowledge that you possess.
- Brainstorm the various people who you can call on for help - your support crew.
- Who else might be available to give you advice or feedback?
The Comparison Conundrum is easy to fall victim to, so if & when you do, quit wasting your time comparing yourself to others & shift your focus to you!
- What you have (& take a moment to be thankful for that);
- What you want & why, and importantly;
- What you need to do to make it happen!
Rightio, off to do some more Facebook stalking …
Until next time, keep smiling!
BLYTHE ROWE & Her Life on Heels.
The founder & director of Human Incite, is widely recognised for her passion, energy and her ability to shake things up. Blythe is brilliant at revving-up productivity & performance in organisations. Her passion made her to be an advocate in creating sustainable behavioural changes & creating meaningful relationships both personally and professionally with her most recent Keynote 'Science of Connection'. Her enthusiasm simply is infectious.